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Do's and Don'ts of New Relationships
Here are some do's and don'ts of new relationships:
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Do not let your children see you and your new relationship touch each other at
all. This physical contact could be misrepresented in the courtroom (and has been!) and
could cost you custody.
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Do not sleep with your new relationship.
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If you do sleep with your new relationship, wait at least six months, practice safe sex, and
never sleep together when the children are at home, even if they are asleep. (They might wake
up, and the resulting scene could cost you custody.)
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Do not have more than one sexual partner every six months.
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Do not move in together.
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Do not let your new relationship spend the night at your house.
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If your spouse does not know about the new relationship, try to "turn down the heat," to keep it discreet.
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If you are dating a number of people, try not to let your children meet any of them. The
children can have any reaction from strongly rejecting the new person to rapidly incorporating
him or her, only to feel rejected again when that relationship ends.
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Do not let the time commitment of your new relationship interfere with your
relationship with your children. It may be tempting to take vacations together or
spend lots of time in the evenings with your new relationship. But if this impinges on
the children's homework time or weekend time with you, a judge might decide that you are
not ready to commit enough time to raising your children.
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Try to be sure that your new partner is stable, and that he or she loves
your children.
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Be nice to your spouse's friends and relatives. That may make them less
interested in being a witness against you.
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