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Party Who Decides To Leave
Spouses who are leaving tend to have some of the following feelings.
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Guilty, now. By seeking the divorce, Carl feels that he is the one who broke up
the marriage. Sometimes the leaving spouse is so guilty he or she
tries to manipulate the other spouse into leaving by being terribly
cruel, or by having an affair and letting it be discovered. It is
better to face your spouse and say you want to leave.
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Bitter, later. Sometimes the guilty spouse will give up so much
financially, that he or she will feel bitter about it later. It is
best for both partners to carefully negotiate as fair a financial
settlement as possible, without giving too much emphasis to issues of
guilt.
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Relieved. Carl has been dealing with his desire to leave for
years. The divorce finally consummates this desire to split.
Carl had often had elaborate separation fantasies in which Grace died
in a car crash. In this, Carl is far from alone.
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Prepared. By the time of the announcement, Carl is really
prepared for the split. But he is aware that Grace quite possibly is
not. He plans to give Grace time to get used to the idea.
Carl has a mental picture of a fair property division, alimony
settlement and child support. But he is going to wait a bit before
proposing it to Grace.
He knows that, likely as not, she will at
this point contest everything as a means of delaying and denying the divorce.
Carl hopes to arrive with Grace at a mutual
understanding of why the marriage did not work out. Then he can
proceed with the custody and financial discussions.
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