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Recognizing Our Feelings

Psychologists say that in some cases, the unkind perceptions we have about our spouses (or vice versa) are actually manifestations of our own fears and flaws.

How can this be?

It happens because we may seek a mate who can express feelings or urges we ourselves have a need to express, but which we suppress. Click here for more on this.

Below are some typical examples:

• If your spouse gets too angry, maybe you suppress anger.
• If your spouse is too sad, maybe you do not permit yourself to be sad.
• If your spouse is not competent, maybe you fear being incompetent.
• If your spouse is wild and impulsive and you are quiet, maybe you fear your own emotions. Click here for an illustration of this.
• If your spouse is very emotional, maybe you think you must suppress your emotions.
• If your spouse is afraid, maybe you deny your own fear.
• If you think your spouse feels that you are "not good enough" in some important way, maybe you feel that way about yourself.

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