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Some Surprising Signs of Insecurity
Here are some indicators that a man may be insecure. Many of these don't look like signs of insecurity,
but usually they are.
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He needs to control or dominate his spouse. He puts her on a household allowance. He monitors
her daily schedule. He may express it as an issue of her competence or trustworthiness. But in
fact, he is insecure. He feels this need for control in order to prevent her from having any experiences
that might "open her eyes" about him and thus cause her to reject him. Dealing with this as
a matter of "trust" would be misguided. The root of the problem is the man's insecurity.
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He is afraid to change anything in his life. For example, he doesn't want her to go back
to school. Or, he doesn't want to change jobs himself. His fear of change, or his inability to act, may
show insecurity. He may feel that his wife is willing to live with him now, but he is afraid that any
change in the status quo might cause her to reject him.
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He has rigid household rules about work, recreation, even child-rearing. He needs strict rules, again,
because he has found a way of living in which he feels secure, and he does not want to risk any change.
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He is afraid to talk openly about issues in the marriage. He is afraid that what comes out
(on both sides) may endanger the status quo, and might result in her rejecting him.
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He is crazily jealous. He does not feel worthy of her, and he is afraid that if she so much
as talks to another person, she will discover that he's not as good as the next man, and she'll want to leave.
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He is a vice-president and a civic leader, but he feels like a failure. Never being satisfied
with one's accomplishments can also be a sign of insecurity.
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He may also be carrying around
insecurity from the family in which he grew up
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