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We Want To Avoid Conflict Sometimes, our misguided notions of not offending the other person keep us from communicating honestly. For example: George wants to tell Martha that he thinks she should keep the house cleaner. But, to avoid conflict, he keeps it to himself. As the days pass, this sense builds up into a real grudge, and George finally explodes. Maybe the thing that makes him explode is some incident unrelated to his actual concern. If George would have told her early on, "I like the house cleaner than this," it would have opened the door to communication. Martha could have shown him her schedule, and explained the reasons it was difficult for her to keep the house cleaner. Or they could have figured out that George cared most about order, and Martha could have traded off by doing laundry less often. Or, George could have agreed to pitch in on one or two household things that he did not mind doing, freeing Martha to keep the house cleaner. But by fearing the immediate conflict, George blocked the kind of honest communication that could have yielded a fairly quick, happy result.
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